Avoid North Carolina ... unless...

I gave up. They wanted me to. I finally wised up and complied. It's an utterly beautiful state, complex... full of both compassion and bigotry... intellectualism and ignorance ... nevertheless...

AVOID North Carolina! 

While it's a region steeped in FEAR of change, narrow mindedness, ignorance and superstition, I have to admit I learned a lot during the three years I was there... and I could have learned more if I'd been mentally and emotionally prepared for:

1. Malicious Gossip
2. IGNORANT and jealous black folks who are the FIRST to attack you
3. Ignorant and jealous white folks who encourage the dither-heads to get at you
4. A "Matriarchy" that calls itself, "Feminism" .. but is focused on power rather than fairness
5. Junior High School culture that is already ready to throw their games at you... yep, same ones..
6. Traditionalism Vs. Post Modernism 
7. Slaves who love the literal translation of the Bible --yet don't have a clue what it means
8. The unique history and the fear "The Outsider" beings to "the family"
9. Negro Confederates
10. Colored Republicans 
11. Narrow minded cliques 
12. Hypocritical sexuality that includes "Down Low Lesbians" 
13. Borderline Retail Workers

"Better Off Without 'Em" starts off: 

"Hang out in my living room on any national election night and at some point in the evening, usually around 7 p.m. Pacific time, you're almost certain to hear me scream something like: "Why in the hell does the United States--and by extension the entire free world, capitalist dominion, and all of Christendom--allow its government to be held hostage by a coalition of bought-and-paid-for political swamp scum from the most uneducated, morbidly obese, racist, morally indigent, xenophobic, socially stunted, and generally ass-backwards part of the country?" ~Chuck Thompson

Darn good question. The best answer I can come up with is that the vast majority of us have snippets of agrarian memories lingering ... unattached... somewhere down in our reptilian brain. We love the neat rows of corn and the tall green pine forest that stretch upwards to powder blue skies.

What most of us to venture down thar eventually realize are all the reasons our parents and grandparents and great-grandparents fled the South in the first place. (There are MANY reasons why the land is so cheap down thar in "Way-Back Land.")

But how can I really call it bad... when it works for them?
Despite all the epidemics of Heroin, Oxycontin, Vicodin, Percocet, Fentanyl, Molly, Meth, Weed, and all forms of alcohol that literally FLOW off Southern store shelves... the straight jacket of Fundamentalism ... seems to work for them ... about as well as the cultural values found in any other region of this insane "United States of Oligarchal Kleptocracy." 

Back South, they have FIRM definitions of what a man is... and what he does. With all due respect, it DOES take a lot to make a "Traditional Man" ... and when you encounter him, he is to be respected.... but in 2016, most of us are more products of either Post Modernism (Baby Boomers), or the values of the Information Age (Gen X and GenNext). 

Try as we will, we can't fit the Genii back into the bottle again.
Still, coming from California where we talk about EVERYTHING.... yet we tend to be more on the shallow--keep it moving/have a nice day--side... North Carolina ... with all it's hypocrisy, taught me the value of being totally congruent. In California, it's easy to become too compartmentalized .... wearing different masks for different occasions with different people. But in traditional society, people know each other's grandparents. They've grown up together and rarely move. So ... people know all your shyt ... and if they don't, they make up the rest. 

The South also taught me that black people are continuing to ... "Dream the WRONG dreams."
Psychologist Carl Jung said he knew World War II was going to happen 10 years before it did simply by listening to the dreams of his German patients. 

We're either too attached to "dreaming" ... ambitiously trying to manifest what the Social Engineers tell them to dwell upon. Television? NO Black person should have a TV in their house. That's how dangerous that tool is. And if you have a young son, and you're sitting him down in front of a TV and/or buying him video games, just admit to yourself that it would be far cheaper to buy little Johnny a loaded .357 pistol to play with... because you're killing him psychologically. 

Proof?

• It only takes 10.... and no more than 15 years to demoralize a culture.
• Black Americans are a very different people than we were up to the early 70s.
• 70% of us aren't even getting married, and 90% of the thirty percent who do, end up in divorce. We can't survive like this. (Dr. Gabor Mate has the stats on what happens to children raised in single family homes Vs. un-stressed, nurturing homes where TWO parents look at a child with love and compassion during the first 6 years of his or her life. 
• Trauma... abandonment, abuse... molestation, TOO MUCH BEATING and YELLING... have been catastrophic in our community. We lead the nation in prison inmates (.. the racist "drug war"), mental illness, homelessness, divorce, HIV-AIDs (... yes... The Fundamentalist Bible Belt South and North Carolina are now GROUND ZERO for new HIV-AIDs cases and many of them are age 45+).
• Violence? Gang Killings? 
• Women hating men and men hating black women?? A house divided cannot stand and television shows like Scandal, Empire, and the duh values of Beyonce and her sell-out Malignant Narcissist husband Jay-Z  are absolutely killing us! 

We HAVE to look clearly... with curiosity and bravery... at where our values come from. Right now, the various Puppet Masters of emotions are leading us off cliffs by the thousands.

1. We also have to begin to understand that the Bible is ..."These things are allegory!" (Galatians 4:24). But how can you understand allegory if you don't stay in school long enough to understand what literature and myth mean? Likewise, even if you attend university and only study computer science and few or no Humanities courses... you'll graduate essentially as a semi-literate tool, instead of an empowered adult capable of carving out your own path in the world.
   
2. We're TOO EXTREME ... either lost in hedonism or whooping and hollering in the superficial, fundamentalist Baptist churches slave masters set up for us. That Gospel (the "Good Spell") clearly  says: "Be not of the letter for the letter kills..." (2 Corinthians 3:6) ... yet we continue to try and make meaning out of 2nd Century Social Engineering aimed at controlling you, rather than break the code through research and free ourselves. (Bill Donahue is one of best "code breakers alive." Listen to his videos to break the chains and discover the POWER of your imaginations and your hearts.
3. In that book, it CLEARLY states that, "God is not a man" (Numbers 23:19), but we continue--out of FEAR-- to worship a white image of the unseen forces of the Universe we call, "God." (... at least we could put a black Jesus up in our churches and homes... because if your God doesn't look like you... you're already in trouble.)

WE ARE DREAMING THE WRONG DREAMS!

Instead of attaching to being the victim and worrying about what others think of you... we absolutely have to stop wrestling with the dysfunctional Status Quo, and begin "dreaming" ... and IMAGINING what kinds of groups of health, fun, and functionality will look like. 

To build a tradition, culture, or long surviving value structure... there needs to be an economy attached to it. 

I am better, and wiser for having moved to the country of North Carolina, but I cannot recommend it to anyone ... ESPECIALLY if you're an older or retired single black male who has lived most of his life in modern, urban centers. I'm not a farmer and it's too hard to become one in your 60s. 




I think Chuck Thompson was right... we should have let the South secede when we had a chance.

The Upcoming Race War

I've lived, "Back South" for two years now. In hindsight, I should have moved to Raleigh, North Carolina instead of the small, rural town south of Greensboro that I did.

• Randolph County is ranked the 8th in gun ownership in America
• Randolph County is a "No Growth" county... which means the STRONGLY resist change
• In 2015, they still refuse to allow blacks to serve in the Town's politics
• The black barber who moved in from Mississippi had to petition them to open a shop "downtown." Prior to that, blacks weren't even allowed "downtown."
• Much of the "No Growth" is aimed at keeping black people down economically.

In 2015, the Whites still firmly think they're identity is attached to their racist past. 

Millennials are angrily preparing for a Race War. To these numb-nuts, it doesn't matter that Zombies don't actually exist in nature, nor the fact that engaging in such and endeavor ... to exterminate all the African Americans in the United States... is an exercise doomed to be their own self-destruction. 
've been shopping for a diesel 2500 or F-350 Duelly pickup truck. A young white car salesman--in his Narcissism--talked about that many

There's a reason there are so MANY U.S. Military bases throughout the South.  

There are many small, unmarked roads and creeks in North Carolina and the South... and the U.S. Army, Marines, and Air Force now know them all. It's not just, "Google Earth"... the Army has been engaging in war games here in the South for a long time. They enlist the aid of locals and use the Special Forces to teach them to be the "Rebels" while the U.S. Army engages them in the same way Jade Helm does in the Southwest... only quieter. 


 America has lost fourteen I.Q. points in the last 20 years. Talking to many people down here is like talking to fence post. And it's not just whites... many black people copy them. "Monkey See, Monkey Do." Initially I saw the huge pattern of, Narcissist Nation... but it took me awhile to realize that the other half of that coin is, "Codependent Nation," and North Carolina is Codependent Nation on steroids. It's a state of small towns that became incorporated into small and midsize cities. People here have grown up with each other for generations. Black, White, Red, and Brown... they know each other's grandparents. The game is... "Oh, we're all just family ... living happily under the umbrella of White Supremacy."

Codependency is about Toxic Shame.
It's what happens when dysfunctional people BEAT children. My Mississippi mother was a RAGING Codependent... so my sister became a Narcissist with an Anti-Social Personality Disorder, and I became a Codependent ... constantly watching for when it was safe.

It's a progressive emotional trauma that creates an insanity in people who will come up to you and believe you're their enemy... simply because they THINK you don't like them. In this cauldron of gossip and malicious lies fueled by narrow-minded Fundamentalism Christianity, CONTROL of others is the delusion of both the needy Narcissist and the needy Codependent. When these two personality types meet (... most people...) they become enmeshed in a dance of "Victim / Predator" that is so unconscious and so addictive that nothing seems to be able to break the loop.

What Black People are Doing Wrong

• We beat our children WAAAAY too much. The nation is currently in the grip of a Heroin epidemic, a Meth epidemic, and still "self-soothing" with Crack, weed, food addiction, gambling (...perhaps the cruelest addiction of all...), and sexual addiction. Alcohol flows off store shelves like the waves of tsunamis. It's said that ALL addicts and alcoholics are Codependents. They partner up with often with the pure form of Codependents because the drug of the Codependent is ... other people. (It keeps them from looking at themselves.) 
• We need more REASONING (around age 6 through 9) and spanking and less BEATING.
• We can't reason if our minds are addicted and occluded. We need to begin to detox... emotionally as well as spiritually. 
• TURN off the TV and all that loud music. Learn to quite and love your mind. All of our troubles come from troubled minds.
• We need to begin to organize ... quietly. We WON the Civil Rights Movement. But first, we had to gather in church basements and community hall rooms in circles where we can look each other in the eyes and forgive... and learn how to empty our pain and trust each other again. We don't get there by calling each other Niggers and Whores... nor beating our chest declaring that we're the BADDEST this or that....

The Opie and Anthony-ization of America
Howard Stern and other shock-jocks who replace functional interaction with a distorted illusion of coolness that comes out of the pit that no, we don't love one another, so lets all get together and cap on each other and call it cool ... and the first one that gets mad loses.

"Those whom the gods wish to destroy, they first make mad." ~Euripides

Retail workers are taught that they can control you if they can control your emotions. 
Dysfunctional, often frustrated .... even jealous and not always highly educated people... attaching to the idea that if she or he can piss you off, they've somehow conquered you... and can control you.

There's some truth to it.. so instead of getting increasingly emotional ... shouting at cops and getting

shot... black people need to go the other way... learning to control our emotions. Mediation is the best way. Watching the movie instead of getting caught up in the movie. I have to admit, this passive-aggressive tool has been used on me to get me kicked out of places. Control? Well, no one controlled me to the point where I gave them $50 dollars... but I may have had to give the Korupt Courts even more. Why make a fool a Rock Star? 

This is what unhappy people like these hater White supremacist feast upon. Instead, deal with the worst enemy we have... that man or woman in the mirror.

Change is created not by going against the predominate paradigm ... it's done by creating a better model! 

Don't give a cripple crab a crunch. 

A Great and Might Walk

Every African American and every African of every age across the Diaspora should view this film. It's here for you... free. If you fail to do so, please don't complain about racism or religion.

A Great and Mighty Walk

We gave the world it's first humanity ... and if fate has save African people who have suffered Holocaust ten times worst than any other holocaust... then perhaps we are destined to give the world its next model of humanity.

Niggas Travel Too

I'm currently traveling Thailand and experiencing that regardless of the culture, there truly is a "Market For Niggass." The nigga might be a Euro sex-slave turned into a voluntary whore, or the nigga might be a rapper creating international hatred towards the once proud black man, but here where the Russian Mafia, the Italian Mob, and the Mexican cartels hold shop ... "niggas" are paid to act a fool here too.

I'm not a fan of Hip-Hop nor Gangsta Rap... not because of the genre ... but because of the "New Jack City Uncle Toms too ignorant to know they're just huck-a-bucking for the world, bringing us all down, and eventually, they'll have nothing to show for it. 

Scum-bags like Jay-Z and Snoop-Dawg don't have money because they're so wonderfully talented... they have it because they were marked by racists as being stable and reliable enough to put forth a product that, (a) guarantees the prisons will stay full, and (b) will destabilize the black community, and (c) continue to destroy black lives because for the Status Quo to remain in power ... the Top has to have a Bottom and that's the job of the Nigga.

I was stationed in this same area 40 years ago. It's sad to see the hatred in the faces of people now. I puzzled about the various reasons why as I walked the streets, then I came face-to-face with a disco blasting loud music and in front, was a rapper spitting out his poison. The Russian Mafia owns all the bars in this area. They're not known for loving black "anything."  But if it brings money in and keeps their users heads low and in line... then it's all good in the international hood.

Detaching Attachment Disorder

Please join me at my new blog, "black traveler." 

I'm currently in Thailand and traveling throughout Southeast Asia. Recently a black woman in a Facebook forum discussed her battle with "RAD" ... or "Reactive Attachment Disorder."

As I read, it occurred to me that many of us suffer from some degree of this ... or else, we have tried to have a successful relationship with someone who suffers from Attachment Disorder. I might go as far to say that the trauma-inducing effects of Social Engineering aimed at African Americans puts us at risk for, "RAD."

Please feel free to comment on what I've written about my experiences with my personal "relationship" with attachment disorder on Black Traveler.

The Dream Is Coming True

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I grew tired of California. The San Francisco Bay Area has become a cesspool of anger, dysfunction, crime, bullying and mental illness. Well, maybe that describes life in most areas of the United States. Research quickly makes it clear that currently, there’s a lot of people wondering if there is any place better to run to.

For black people, we often have an additional layer of fear and doubt to work through when faced with drastic change—because moving to another state can be just that—a drastic life change, for better or worse.

I'd done a lot of moving in my life, but only recently did I learn that "smart relocators" take their time and create list with as many as 24 items of "must" that are looking for in their new location. They compare housing tax rates, quality of the drinking water, racial and political demographics, proximity of good schools, city zoning laws, and even the view they’ll have. Where do you find such valuable information?

• City-Data.com not only has statistics on most cities in every state, the site also has a forum that allows anyone who registers to post and replies to questions about … anywhere and anything. It's been my experience that if asked without judgment or blame, candid, "real talk" questions elicit "real talk" answers delivered with respect.

• Wikipedia.com has a surprising amount of good information on cities and counties.

• United Country.com is a great website for those of us who are looking for rural property just outside the trauma-drama of urban technocratic apartment life.

I am currently checking out the Southeastern states I'm most attracted to. After this phase is over, I'll spend six months in Southeast Asia, determining if I want to retire in a country like Thailand. I've been warned against, "All or Nothing" thinking, so it might end up being six months in Cambodia, and six months in North Carolina. Right now, life has given me the luxury of being able to spend nine months deciding.  From now on, most of my posting will take place on either:

• Black Traveler

• Black Farms

I hope you'll join me on the journey.

Join me at Black Traveler!

I have embarked on a nine-month odyssey in search of my little house in the country where a previously self-identified black urbanite will produce my own organic food. But this is more than just searching for a good plot of land and clean drinking water—it's also about locating a spot where crime is low (no "thugs") and racist Right Wing extremist are all but non-existent.

Harmony.

In tomorrow's world, survival and quality of life will depend upon low drama, and networking with "Like Minds." Notice I didn't say, "Like Color." Smart people who have a sense of what's coming know that combining resources and comparing information with as many types of people as possible is not only healing—but super wise.

Join me at, black traveler and let’s compare notes.

http://blacktraveler.wordpress.com/

Have Previous Black Eonomic Gains Been Reversed?

It's clear that the current, "Recession" for middle America is a “Depression” for Black America. Further, "Dr. Doom," NourielRoubini, the economics professor who correctly predicted the '08 Crash and smaller economic downturns before and since, now says we’re in, "The Perfect Storm" for an upcoming crash that will be worst than the '08 Crash.

So it's way past time for blacks to stop thinking that everything is going to be alright. Sad to repeat this, but when white America catches an economic cold, we often catch pneumonia. Some say that Black America has lost a combined trillion dollars since the '08 crash.

(And no, selling drugs is NOT a good 'fall back' career choice… unless you feel like sitting in a prison cell that feels like 200 Degrees Fahrenheit when they transfer your over-crowded behind to some obscure rat hole in Rattlesnake, Nevada is a "good thing.")

But we're not upset about our suffering because Obama is in office? Huh?? Really?

Y’all better wake up! Read the links about the next forecasted economic downturn and begin thinking:

1.     What will I need to do to keep food on my plate?

2.     Now that Monsanto is holding our food hostage, is it better for me to grow my own?

3.     What in life would I REALLY love to do, regardless of the income?

Number Three may be most important. The following is a USA TODAY story titled: 

Black economic gains reversed in Great Recession

“Millions of Americans endured similar financial calamities in the recession. But for Goldring and many others in the black community, where unemployment has risen since the end of the recession, job loss has knocked them out of the middle class and back into poverty. Some even see a historic reversal of hard-won economic gains that took black people decades to achieve.”

I strongly encourage you to read the entire story at: USA TODAY | ECONOMY

Be Small

It's about control. 

I never thought I'd be advocating for some of the issues that I will be in the coming weeks and months ... but I now see, that "Social Engineers" ... and well meaning people who've been brainwashed by them ... are using issues of race, sex, sexuality, gender, and religion to insert fear and division as their way to control.

Yes, it's the same as it's always been... but subtle in its approach because the fear is often married to "niceness." Don't cave to clicks. Don't make the world smaller for another small person. If you slander, label, slur, or be-little anyone, what you're actually doing is making the world smaller for yourself.

QUESTION: Why aren't we focusing our anger on those greedy bastards holding and grabbing all the money instead of calling each other words like, "... bitches, fags, whores, punks, losers ... Lib-weirds, and all the zillion other words we use against our neighbors?

Afraid?